Of course here are no rules and regs of parenting [should there be?]
But there are some very important elements every parent needs to understand and hopefully succeed at!
No matter how you look at it, it all starts at home!
· pursuit of excellence,
· caring for others,
· overcoming defeat and failure,
· learning from failures
Be assured – pretty much every case of bigotry, prejudice and hate – whether ethnic, religious, even the handicapped - was learned or encouraged at home.
By the exact same token, the pursuit of excellence is learned in the HOME in two ways:
(1) kids will model their parents’ behaviors in their approach to life and work, and
(2) positive comments heard by your child for any effort that’s not perfect - any good effort should be reinforced and complimented AT HOME.
I’m sure you can add other elements to the list above – just please be clear in explaining why they’re important and how to live them or apply them.
And please don’t be negative in your comments – every degrading comment undermines self-esteem and success – and hence, their life!
Be very careful with the ‘yeah, but’s’ – which are really negatives partially disguised. Strive for ‘yes, and…’ [notice the more positive difference?]
And I pray you’re not one of those who believes – “they’ll just pick it up – no need to teach it.”
PLEASE DO – teach it!
Yes – you have awesome responsibilities as a parent of a teen. Hope this gives you worthy insight toward helping them in ‘approaching greatness.’
If you’d like to contact me, I’m at CoachSteve@Launch-Your-Life.com