By engaging him or her toward THEIR dream goal, EVERYTHING else falls into place:
Experience with MANY teenagers has SHOWN that, when they’re pursuing THEIR dream goal:
· Motivation increases
· Focus improves
· Discipline strengthens
· Homework becomes more personally important.
The list could go on – but you get the idea.
So the challenge becomes – how to get them to identify and set their DREAM GOAL?
Despite your possible doubt, it is A FACT that all human beings [including your teen] are inherently motivated.
Are there confounding factors? Yes. Could be things like hormonal or body chemistry changes or shifts, emotional swings due to interpersonal or dating issues – which may seem small, small, small to you or me – but to them, their world hinges on it… And of course, the usual – past habits of minimal motivation, doing too much for them, giving them too much, etc. But even those can be overcome by the steps below.
I fully expect that many readers will say – “yeah, that may be for those other teens – but mine is different.” BUNK. Open your eyes and your mind.
Basic issue: an underachiever is someone achieving below their potential. THEY HAVE POTENTIAL – you simply may not have figured out how to tap it yet.
To get them dreaming, we have several tools we can share with you – just message me.
Lou Holtz - very famous football coach, says, “If you’re bored with life [it’s because] – you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things – you don’t have enough goals.”
Bottom line? NO GOAL, NO GLORY!
LAST THOUGHT: recognize, even assume – that their dream goal may change. THAT’S OK. In fact, it’s the process that’s most important and valuable.