Thursday, September 29, 2016

I Had An Accident - - -

Several years ago, driving to the Outer Banks for vacation, on a Pennsylvania country road, I stopped at a “four-way stop” intersection [I thought], I saw a car coming on my right and assumed they would also stop.  I proceeded into the intersection – BAMM!! My mistake – that road did NOT have a stop sign! L Afterward, I got to thinking of the definition of “accident.”  It’s something you simply did not expect, it ‘came out of
nowhere’ – you thought you had it covered.

That’s EXACTLY what’s happening to many of today’s incoming college students.  They have the best academic preparation ever – and yet a disturbing and increasing proportion ARE FAILING.  WHY?  [and how about yours?]

Parents today give their kids the best schools, the best parenting, the best mentoring, the best tutors – and they still fail!  [certainly not all, but the numbers increase every year: drop-outs or taking 5 or 6 years to complete (a very expensive) 4-year degree, etc.  But wait, IT GETS WORSE: very often, these students haven’t developed the skills and habits to succeed at a job AFTER graduation!  They don’t know how to undertake and complete projects and tasks, plan, prioritize, allocate their time - and that’s what employers WANT and NEED!

The critical issue is that, you, the parent, have very little way to KNOW if they’ll succeed in college until they’re there!

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Is your teenager poised for success?

1.      My teenager starts most days with clear, specific goals, directed toward some long-term dream goal
1.      Always
2.      Mostly
3.      Some
4.      Not often/ never

2.      When my teenager does not achieve a goal - fails’, they find out WHY – and begin strengthening for the next attempt

1.      Always
2.      Mostly
3.      Some
4.      Not often/ never

3.      When my teenager does not achieve a goal - ‘fails’, they interpret it as a challenge to perform better the next time
1.      Always
2.      Mostly
3.      Some
4.      Not often/ never

If you scored your teenager as 1’s on all questions, they are solidly poised for success.  If you would like to strengthen, accelerate and assure their success in college and in life, Launch-Your-Life will still be a wise investment, to strengthen, assure and accelerate their future.  To learn more, go here… ____________.  [note to self: which page?]

If you scored your teenager as a mix of 1’s and 2’s, there’s room for growth.  To learn more, go here… ____________.  [note to self: which page?]

If you scored your teenager as a mix of 2’, 3’s and 4’s – they will need to strengthen their self-management skills to release their true potential and capacity.   Launch-Your-Life can definitely strengthen and prepare them for an even more successful college and life career.  To learn more, go here… ____________.  [note to self: which page?]
NOTE to parents: if you scored them as all 2’s, it shows a need for growth and change – otherwise their real potential will remain partially dormant.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

#Teen, #High-School, #College #Success!

We all hope for it, wish for it, would do anything to help our teenagers achieve it!

And when we talk about success, many of us quickly become quite philosophical and say “It’s not just money.” And of course, that’s right.  SUCCESS surely includes family life, interpersonal relationships, good health - but be assured that a frustrated, unfulfilled career WILL reverberate, permeate and diminish one’s life.

Let’s first recognize that career success is not simply from knowledge – but rather if and how that knowledge is USED.  If the most skilled surgeon in the world doesn’t USE those skills, s/he is as average as the rest of us.

But wait - - average?  What was Garrison Keilor’s line about Lake Wobegon – “where all the men are handsome and all the children are above average.”

Many times, average [or above or below] is defined by an IQ test score.  However, those tests measure and predict only ONE THING: school success.  As soon as a student leaves school, IQ scores become (relatively) meaningless. We all know countless stories of people who couldn’t read well – or didn’t possess some other school skill – but who achieved great things in business or science or entertainment, etc.   Henry Ford said he wanted to surround himself with people smarter than him – and he was clearly very successful.

It’s UNTRUE that everyone’s created equal.  We’re not!  We each have differing strengths, weaknesses, talents, shortcomings, etc.  We’ve certainly seen MUCH unexpected talent on TV shows in recent years.  So – one key element is to discover what your child’s talent is.

Young people (and others) are sometimes cautioned about pursuing a goal for which they aren’t “talented.”  I’d suggest - let’s let him/her pursue that goal, learn what’s needed to achieve it, see how dedicated or committed s/he is – and regardless of natural talent – go for it!  Worst case scenario is that they’ll learn about themselves.  BEST case?  They may become the world’s best musician OR teacher OR engineer OR coach OR heart surgeon, etc., unless they were guided away by someone’s well-intentioned advice not to pursue that goal.

Fact is, Daniel Goleman in his seminal book EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE documented the fact that the greatest predictor and driver of success is how one handles defeats – it’s NOT intelligence, talent, level OR source of education nor genetics.  The deciding trait is whether s/he handles defeat or failure in a non-emotional, learn-from-this-experience and try again manner.

In coming weeks, we will explore how to strengthen and accelerate your child’s success.
And of course, please feel free to comment on these thoughts.