In our last episode, we noted college officials’ comments regarding the increasing number of their students who do not ‘manage themselves’ well, i.e., time management, planning, rebounding from adversity, etc.
Here are five solutions to strengthen your high school or college student’s success:
1. Dream often
2. Negate nothing
3. Celebrate failures
4. Never accept “I just didn’t… (get it or get to it)”
5. Explain and plan IN DEPTH & DETAIL.
DREAM OFTEN: too often, young people simply accept someone else’s thinking or some well-known person’s, i.e., a rock star or entertainer, or their parent’s suggestions, etc. To overcome that, the more they dream, the wider and broader their possibilities.
NEGATE NOTHING: negating anything shuts down thinking – and as you do listen to their thoughts, always follow up with a gentle, inquisitive, non-interrogating “why…?” Why is that important, why do you think or say that, what led you to that, etc. Typically, this will instigate further thinking on their part – always a good thing!
CELEBRATE FAILURES: failure is the best teacher, far superior to success. When failure or defeat occurs, explore what happened, strive to understand it, and “don’t lose the lesson.” If one accepts defeat as final, s/he has effectively quit. But failing to learn from it wastes life! No truly successful person has not failed – but they learn from their setbacks – and plan how to overcome them in the future.
NEVER ACCEPT “I JUST DIDN’T (GET IT OR GET TO IT)” - Either response avoids finding the cause. “I just didn’t get to it” is a time management issue – strictly and totally a function of prioritization and decision-making. One excellent approach: break the task into smaller units or blocks. This increases the probability of success.
“I just didn’t get it” – and giving up there – sidesteps learning what was to be learned. If they ‘didn’t get it’ – explore, understand, go back to the teacher, find a tutorial, etc. Carol Dweck, author of Mindset, would use the words “not yet” – meaning that learning isn’t complete yet, but not defeated – so the wisest approach is to keep at it.
Explain and plan IN DEPTH & DETAIL. The teenage brain has an immense capacity to become confused and unable to balance differing non-equal factors in decision-making. This is not simple ‘airheadedness’ – it’s due to the evolving but not yet completed maturation of their brain. To overcome that, make no assumptions. Spell out specifically what each action step is and what might happen if not performed. Then, ask him or her to explain back to you what actions they will take. You will be amazed at how often they missed an important detail.
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